What it means to forgive is different to everyone. Some believe that it implies that the other person has permission to hurt you. Others feel that it is a release of resentment. There probably a few dozen more descriptions that others use to justify their stance.
We have all experienced let downs and hurts when our expectations have not been fulfilled. Some hold on to resentment for years, feeling justified in their anger. The other person is not affected by random emotions of anger or frustration that are harbored in the body. Even if someone has intentionally hurt you, resentment harbored only negatively impacts YOU!
Work to get past the negative impulse. There is nothing that can be changed about what has happened. Consider the event a learning lesson or a character building event. If you are still holding on to resentment, take the high road and forgive—release the person or the situation. You don’t have to forget what happened but allow yourself to arrive at peace in your spirit. A few questions to explore your relationship with forgiveness:
- What does forgiveness mean to you?
- Do you have trouble with forgiveness?
- Have you ever felt physical tension when thinking of or faced with someone you resent and have not forgiven?
Work towards a resolution… “LAW”
- Love yourself enough to not burden your body with negativity—Let go and move forward.
- Accept that your reality is not theirs—they may never see your point of view.
- Write a letter to the person to get your resentment off your chest…then burn it as a sign of release.